Aversion Therapy – NaBloMoPo

There are two ways to look at most things in life – either you take a positive approach, the old glass half full approach, or a negative approach, the glass half empty approach.  Being a positive kind of soul, often on the verge of turning into a middle-aged (now there’s positive) Pollyanna I like to find an upbeat spin to most things.  So I will not be saying I have failed with the NaBloMoPo challenge – although I have.  Instead I am going to tell you how trying to write a blog post a day has been a bit like some form of aversion therapy for my blogging habit, albeit unexpected.

I was doing Ok until last week.  Last week was a crazy week.  We had our award ceremonies at work so I spent 4 days hosting VIPs during 8 ceremonies: transporting them backwards and forwards between venues which meant something like 16 coach trips; eating seemingly piles of couscous salad and tartlets and other things which I can’t even remember now; attending two dinners; and making more small talk than any one person should be expected to.  This meant that at the end of each day I was collapsing through the door brain-dead and on the couple of evenings when I might have had time to write something there was definitely nothing there to be said.  So the blog was forgotten.

Now a strange thing happened.  It didn’t bother me that I couldn’t write a blog post and even stranger this weekend I couldn’t be bothered to write one even though I had plenty of time and my head had cleared.  This is very strange indeed as for the past 8 years I have blogged religiously 3 or 4 times a week, and sometimes more.  When I have been away I have missed blogging.  I have often said that I have done it so long that it is part of my routine, it’s a habit – but it seems not.

Why this change?  I don’t really know. There is an element of work being very challenging of late leaving me exhausted but I am also spending more and more time on other things apart from gardening.  Dont get me wrong I love my garden and I am still fascinated by plants but I don’t feel a need to write about it all the time any more.  I have been playing around on the blog experimenting with writing about other things and its Ok but if I am honest doing the NaBloMoPo really made me feel that I was writing for the sake of it and any enjoyment I might have got was lost so why do it.  When I started blogging all those years ago it was primarily to connect with other horticulturally minded people and I have done that which is great but I have also in the last few years met lots of people in the ‘real’ world through the various groups I have discovered.  These groups have led over the last year to me being involved more in horticulture such as my role as recorder for the RHS Symphyotrichum trial and I think my need for horticultural input is being met more, these days, in this way than on-line.

I doubt I will stop blogging, and I will definitely finish the End of Month meme this year but I have a strange sense of being liberated from something which is quite wonderful.

The only reason for this post is to reassure regular readers that I haven’t completely fallen off the planet.


11 Comments Add yours

  1. Lynn says:

    When life gets too hectic, it is time to make changes that help you get back to your real self. I find that this time of year–end of the gardening season, and the rushing in of the holiday season has me wanting to put aside things that I don’t look forward to doing. Hopefully this will be a pause and not an end to your writing. I am not a long-time follower, so at least I can go back and read all the ones I’ve missed until hopefully you return.

  2. rusty duck says:

    Perhaps the answer is not to commit yourself to a regular timetable for blogging, even though that is what the ‘gurus’ tell you to do. Blog when you feel like it and have something you want to write about. It shouldn’t be a millstone round your neck. I would miss your posts if you stopped completely!

  3. Not quite the insight I was expecting you to get from NaBloMoPo, but it sounds like a good one. It will be interesting to see where else you go with it..!

  4. Brian Skeys says:

    I think a ‘holiday’ from anything you do on a regular basis is good for you.
    You come back refreshed with new enthusiasm.

  5. Diana Studer says:

    If I HAD to blog every day
    I would hate to.

  6. Donna says:

    It’s funny but I thought you were having a bit of a blog-a-thon recently i.e. blogging loads more than you do usually. I clean forgot that you’d taken up that writing challenge so I’m not surprised you’ve come to a juddering or almost run out of steam. I’ve said it before – I could never commit to doing what you do with writing this blog Helen. It’s really easy for us making an occasional comment and then off we go again, but you’re the one with all the responsibility keeping the ‘show-on-the-road’. I’d find it too much of a commitment and far too exhausting that’s why you’re an inspiration to so many 🙂

  7. Yvonne Ryan says:


  8. Mahee Ferlini says:

    Do what you enjoy, no pressure. However, you are a good writer though and I enjoy reading your posts so thank you for the great read.

  9. Linda says:

    I always enjoy reading your posts, so am glad to hear that you will be continuing blogging:) I can imagine how challenging nablopomo is! I was going to do it this month, but have put it off until the new year now as Christmas sewing is more urgent!

  10. Hi Helen,
    I just want to say that I can relate to your feelings toward blogging. For different reasons, but I also reconsidered my approach to blogging. I can’t stop blogging but I slowed down considerably. And it’s not just about how often to blog, I am talking about that sense of liberation.
    Thank you for your thoughts.
    All The Best,

  11. Cathy says:

    I blogged every day for the first 2 years but then made the decision to blog less as it was beginning to take up too much time and almost dominate my everyday life. It was hard at first, but I got used to it although even now I have to remind myself that I don’t HAVE to blog a certain number of times a week or join in with all the memes – after all, I should be writing when I want to and because I want to and I am beginning to move on to this stage now, I think. As usual you have been refreshingly honest in your post and are no doubt expressing feelings that many other bloggers have felt at times even if they haven’t admitted to it and hopefully they will respect you all the more for it. Well done too for your decision to ‘stand down’ from the EOMV meme – so many of us have taken it for granted for many years without considering the amount of work it can take hosting a meme. Thank you for everything

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